Basically the idea of unconditional love has been playing in my mind for quite some time. I just dint have the exact term or phrase for it but something that has always been plaguing my mind is..what is love? what is so abstract about the idea of love that makes it hard to understand. A lot of ppl claim to be in love...or that they love someone. Many in relationships think that they are with their partners becuase of love. But is it really true? Sad to say, most often than not it is the idea of seeking companionship (not wanting to be lonely), lust, infatuation and many more that drives people on in relationship. Remove this elements, and the relationship crumbles overnight...
Which brings back to the idea of love. Is there love in varying degree? What is love? How is love demonstrated.
The answer finally came like a revelation. It was during my first CG meeting with my hall's VCF that it dawned on me. It happened when one of my brothers pray that i'll be able to demonstrate unconditional love. It was then that it dawned on me. For love to be truly love, it has to be unconditional. There shouldn't be a need for returns, or benefit from love or even reciprocal. Love is charity to your fellow mankind, a feeling of compassion and passion for them.
Which begs the question, is there truly unconditional love? Can man demonstrate such thing. Many have said that only God is able to demonstrate such love which is true to a certain extent. To Christians, God demonstrated that love when he sent his son to die on the cross. Even at the final moments, Jesus (according to Christianity), after being tormented, scorned and persecuted, with a head bloody from a crown of thorns and a body full of stripes with ribbons of flesh hanging prayed a prayer of forgiveness. He said, 'Father forgive them for they know not what they do' Such compassion is a true demonstration of unconditional love. Will you be able to show that?
Some will argue that humans being imperfect do not have the strength. Which is true. Until it occured to me that many people have already been demonstrating such a quality. Think about your parents. How often have they cared for you even with all the mistakes that you made. How many times have they forgiven you although your crime may seem unforgiveable. So humans too are able to demonstrate unconditional love (or simply love itself) . The only question is, will we be willing to. Will we love our fellow humans. It is a tough order but it's not impossible. And for me, i will try my utmost.
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.
And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.
If I give away all I have, and if I deliver my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful;
it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;
it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends; as for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. (1 Corinthians 13 )
So faith, hope, love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love. (1 Corinthians 13:13)
¶ 11:31 PM 2 Comments
I am the boy who caused you so much pain 21 years ago
I am the boy who always envied his bro because of his toys
I am the boy who hid in the large monsoon drain cutting his nails while he was waiting for the bus..becuase he was ashamed
I am the boy who played doctors and patients with the girl next door
I am the boy who always became the patient
I am the boy who took the same girl out for a bicycle ride and ended up crashing
I am the boy who scarred half his face becuase of that crash
I am the boy who lost your valuable toy cars..and am still sorry for it
I am the boy who sent you marching down to the headmaster's office while he was only seven
I am the boy who stood by the door silently while you were whipped by the headmaster
I am the boy who bore stripes on his legs on an almost daily basis
I am the boy who never learnt and thus got more stripes...both of us did
I am the boy who got chased out of the house
I am the boy who felt homesick he called home everyday
I am the boy who soothed you while you sleep..continuously patting you on the back
I am the boy who wasn't head prefect becuase i couldn't say the doa (i could)
I am the boy who saved your life..and almost drowned in the process
I am the boy who planned for a party...and was sad because only half turned up
I am the boy who scored a goal.
I am the boy who cried while we fought...not because of pain..but becuase of emotional pain
I am the boy who teared when he watched cartoons
I am the boy who joined band because his mother challenged him to and the dm looked real cool
I am the boy who wanted to be DM
I am the boy who became DM, and conductor, and tbone section leader, and...
I am the boy who made you cry while interviewing you
I am the boy who called you up the next day...to make sure you were okay
I am the boy who fell off the stage...and broke a tooth
I am the boy who got his nose whacked by the mace..and now have a crooked nose
I am the boy who got injured by the mace...many many times...including a dislocated thumb
I am the boy..who called the mace my gf...and had to share her with two others
I am the boy who scolded all of you though i never meant to
I am the boy who had such great pals and members...that we made it to the top
I am the boy who upon clearing his debts...spent 5000 the next day
I am the boy who was to shy to sing in public
I am the boy who shivered everytime he stood in front of the public and debated
I am the boy who can never play sports
I am the boy who had a mask on all the time
I am the guy they called a robot..emotionless
I am the guy who still enjoys the simple things in life....a beautiful sunset, the smell of fresh rain, a simple meal with family and friends
I am the guy who had many secrets....and will still have many secrets
I am the guy who fell for you
I am the guy who let you down
I am the guy who started the concert
I am the guy who still drops by school once in a while
I am the guy whose heart bleeds for the band in its current state
I am the guy who has many friends but doesn't realise it
but ultimately
i am the guy who is your friend and
i am the guy who wil be there...when you need help...or when you feel lonely...or when you need someone to lean on....i am your friend..that means you, you and you..
from a young innocent child with an equally innocent voice....he is and was broiled in scandal....the little boy with the cherubic face and the sweet smile...is now with a pale deathly white skin....and horrible features.
it just shows you that we 'll never know what happens to life.....that your childhood will not guarantee your adulthood....which i guess is kinda pertinent to me considering i've just made a step into adulthood (by society's standard, adulthood is not measured by maturity but by age)...and it makes me wonder what life will be like for me...ten years or so from now.....hehe meaningful i hope...
in a similar way, i've seen many ppl grow before my eyes.....and have seen the many potential that they have within them....i hope they'll be able to realise these potentials and be useful ppl to their families, their friends and society...
here's to a better world! ¶ 2:01 AM 2 Comments
anyway.....thanx loads to everyone for making me bday memorable...pity i can't put this blog public to fully thank everybody..hehe..i still want my privacy....
this was what my life was like during the weekend....
midnight friday -> got 2 birthday cakes from friends...........errm was very touched..hehe..cause many of them came from far far away..like the 4 corners of the earth (pgp is in the 4th corner)
1am- > went for supper.....stayed till 2am...
2am - 4am....chatting n stuff.....tried to do lab report....
saturday
8am- woke up..had breakfast etc..got onto my lab report which should have been done many days before.....
around noon met up with my brother and his prospective future gf..haha..not bad sia doctor and athlete.,....haha i'm not gonna curse at my bro now cuase he's reading this blog but basically he made me wait for half an hour in a sleep deprived state while he hanbdled his prospective gf's computer probelms....not only that i had to lug his ibook all the way to him..
errm....after that we went harbourfront to get my new 256 mb sd card for the cam...
hehe
and as revenge..ig ot him to donate blood...his first time sia...should have seen his face pucat like anything....
after that i spent my time wandering around plaza sing...admiring the lovely yamaha xeno trumpet that's like 6k bucks........
hmm you still reading this??
oh yeah...bout the blog title..
seriously..
for a moment my mother thought i was GAY...due to a certain lovely brother of mine...
hehe this is what i got on my msn a couple of nights ago
mom : Kelvin...your kor kor says you're gay
me : (*&*&@^#*!&$) (Ofcourse i din swear it out in front of her) har? (yea that was the only response i could generate)
mom: yea he said you're gay...are you?
me: errm...a couple of days ago you were worried bout me getting a gf...now you're worried about me being gay?so which is it?u dun wan me to get gf or dun wan me to be gay
mom: of course i hope you're not gay...but u still can't get a gf
me: ya ya...i'm not gay..
mom: okay..that's quite a relief..
wahliao!!! my mom actually believed my brother when he said i'm gay.....anyway...my btoher's adopted for your info...to see what he looks like click on this link to his pic
okay that's all for now
albums still up with spanking new pics at www.flickr.com/photos/cxtreme ¶ 12:45 PM 4 Comments
i have no idea what to say though...hmm i've added a flash of my flickr album on the right hand bar...go have a look!!
i guess a reflection is in order.....21 years in the making and it all boils down to today......
many experiences encountered....many experiences gained....
but what i'm truly thankful for......are the friends who was and is and will be there....
thanx guys! ¶ 9:03 AM 3 Comments
http://sgdr.blogspot.com/2005/09/holiday-season.html
families are important to us....how have we forgotten what our parents have done for us? how is it that all those years of sweat and toil doesn't matter when we're succesful now? why is it that we do not treasure what matters most, family, love, but instead pursue things that are irrelevant to life like money, material beings.
i hope i don't turn out this way....i hope you don't as well.....
just remember the story of the man with the basket, his father and his son........where he tried to abandon his father by carrying him in the basket and bringing him into the jungle.....the son tells the father not to throw away the basket as he'll need the basket later on
do unto others what you want others to do unto you.....not because of the fear of retribution...but for the love of humanity and mankind ¶ 12:25 AM 1 Comments
